The idea of self-pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, was something that used to make me cringe. I only heard about sex, and even masturbation, in whispers on the bus when I was younger. Friends would giggle awkwardly, and we’d all deny our curiosity. It wasn’t until I was well into college that I was able to talk about sex or sex toys with anyone without the fear of blushing and hyperventilating.
Growing up in a strict Catholic family, I was pretty much forbidden from things like masturbation or sex (out of marriage). If I dared to mention anything that hinted at curiosity, my parents would have punished me. Now, as a married woman of many years, I’ve started to learn that sex and pleasure are not only OK to want as a woman but are also amazing to give myself during time alone. In fact, masturbation is actually a healthy sexual activity that benefits your mental and physical health. It can help relieve stress, boost your mood, and even relieve period cramps.
For years, society has allowed men to openly discuss their sexual desires and preferences, while often shaming women for even hinting at self-pleasure or other sexual desires. Society almost expected men to watch porn and take long “showers,” while women spoke of sex or masturbation only in hushed tones. But, slowly, things are changing, thanks to the power of social media and unapologetic women like Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion who are unafraid to show the bold beauty of female sexuality.
So whether you’re looking for something new to try on your own or to try with a partner, here’s a list of my favorite sex toys.
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Best sex toys for moms (and men, too!)
I heard about this powerful little toy in my online moms group. When you get a bunch of moms with no filter together, it’s no surprise that you learn about amazing things like the Satisfyer Pro 2. If you have a clitoris and vagina or even just prefer clitoral stimulation, this is the toy for you. Just remember that it takes one or two tries to get the hang of the silicone head and placement to get the necessary seal. But I promise it is worth the wait! Think 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, blast off!
This vibrator is ergonomic and super affordable— just under $30 at Target. It has 10 intense vibrations that can be used for stimulating your clitoris, and when fully charged, it can last for up to an hour of fun… if you can keep going that long.
This vibrator has 20 vibration patterns and can be used not just on your love button but also on your neck, shoulders, and legs. Be warned that this baby is very powerful and has earned nearly 4,000 reviews and a four-star rating on Amazon.
5 colors available
If you’re looking for something that’s easy to hide from your children but also gets the job done, this is the perfect product for you. I love how it’s small enough to hold in my hands without worrying about them cramping halfway through, and I also love that it’s super easy to clean.
2 finishes available
There’s a reason why Rabbit vibrators are so popular (beyond Charlotte’s endorsement in Sex and the City). They tend to hit on all the right spots; its rigid tip will hit your G-spot perfectly while the rabbit ears work on external stimulation. This one gets bonus points for offering 6 vibration speeds and also being silent—for those who want some more discreet pleasure.
Great for sex toy beginners, this spicy, waterproof wand vibrator—named for singer Demi Lovato—is concealed in a discreet case that can blend into any bag as you travel or need to hide it from your kids.
If you need a little extra stimulation to reach the big O during intercourse with your partner, this is a good addition to the bedroom. What I love is that the squeeze remote is designed to increase vibration the tighter you squeeze so you don’t have to stumble for the right button while you’re occupied.
This vibrator is revolutionary! While it is suggested to be used with a partner during penetrative sex, it also can be used during solo play… hands-free. The two legs nestle between your vulva to hold it in place, so you can use your hands to explore other parts of your body or just rest and focus on the sensation of its three-speed motor.
2 colors available
This discreet vibrator fits around an index finger and can be inserted or placed wherever you want to feel a little stimulation—perfect to use with a parter or solo!
Hold one of these wherever you want a lil’ boost during sex. It’s that easy. This has multiple speeds, so you can switch it up and have a little fun with your partner by changing the three speeds throughout. It’s also discreet and easy to hide from kids due to its small size.
While wands tend to be a fan favorite, they can also be very heavy and uncomfortable to hold for extended periods of time. This petite wand is a smaller and lighter version of the wand, with 10 vibration speeds, six patterns, and up to an hour of charge.
This finger vibrator is designed to fit over two fingers and has one large button that controls seven preset pulsations. It is super quiet and discreet, and it is small enough to travel without worry of it being discovered.
While this toy is meant for those with penises, it is quite fun and handy with a partner who may want to try—or need—some extra stimulation. Its open silicone design makes cleaning a snap. Plus, it is waterproof and latex-free.
With 10 vibration levels and patterns, this vibrator targets a broad area and uses magnetic pins to make charging easy and convenient.
More intimacy finds
These clinically studied intimacy gummies should become a new part of your daily routine. They support nitric oxide levels while also promoting healthy blood flow.
Created by the same doctor who led the clinical development of Viagra, this pleasure cream is designed to promote natural lubrication and to support easier, longer, more satisfying orgasms in women.
For anyone who feels like their stress is affecting their sex drive, these twice-a-day capsules are an easy addition to your daily routine that have been proven to increase sexual satisfaction.
This new lube formula is condom compatible and also works great with toys. Both bottles are made with distinct formulas tailored to men and women.
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