"Trigger warning: This article discusses miscarriage, infant loss, and grief.
No one likes to talk about death and grief, so when loss happens to you, you don’t have a guidebook. It can be a world-stops-turning, punch in the stomach, feel like you’re gonna puke or have a heart attack moment, followed by a cascade of other intense emotions you never dealt with before. And it can feel so, so isolating. So when people are willing to share their grief stories, it helps others who’ve gone through it feel less alone and more open to healing—which is likely why this latest “Bury Me in Comfy Clothes” TikTok trend is hitting people so hard.
The Original ‘Bury Me in Comfy Clothes’ Video
TikTok user Kailey Serrao (@kaleyserrao) is thought to have started this “Bury Me in Comfy Clothes” trend after she shared a heartfelt post about losing her baby son. In it she writes, “When I die, make sure I have a comfy outfit on and my shoes are tied tight, because I have a long overdue playdate with my son.” (OK, I can’t even type right now because my eyes are blurred with tears).
In the last week, the trend took off. One of the top-liked TikTok videos, by user Mikhaila Kron (@mikhailakron), had a similar message when she shared a touching post honoring her stillborn daughter. The top comment on her post doesn’t stop the tears from flowing, “And when you get there, you’re going to hear her say ‘look guys, that’s my mommy’ ❤️❤️.” The sentiment touched another TikTok user, Courtney Worthington (@worthfit), so much so that she shared her reaction to the post in a video. Her reaction video now has 25+ million views on TikTok and almost 300K views on Instagram with comments that’ll break your heart all over again.
But I think there’s something a little special happening here. As any griever knows, it can help to know you’re not the only one who’s experienced loss. I thank Kailey Serrao, Mikhaila Kron, and all the others for honoring their losses in a way that gave others the space to share their grief stories—and Courtney Worthington for giving it more visibility. If there’s anything I’ve learned after grief, it’s that the heavy load is easier to carry when it’s shared.
The Reaction Video to the Bury Me in Comfortable Clothes Trend
Below is Courtney Worthington’s reaction video that sparked more people to share “When I Die, Bury Me In” messages. Be forewarned that this is an emotional and heartbreaking video to watch:
The ‘Bury Me in Comfy Clothes’ Trend Now Has Millions of Posts and Comments
According to TikTok’s discover page, the “Bury Me in Comfy Clothes” trend—often set to Pink and Kelly Clarkson’s duet of Who Knew—has millions of posts. But reading the comments section of the videos above was enough for me. Here are some of the touching comments people shared:
Moms Grieving Babies
“I wasn’t expecting to cry this morning 🥺. This is a perspective I’ve never even thought about. I will see my babies on the other side.”—@Olivia Davidson
“Thats me. I have three up there. I keep thinking when I to get to heaven, I’ll hear a little voice I’ve never heard before say, ‘Hi mama.'” —@Ainsley
“Me waiting for two little voices yelling ‘guys that’s our mom’ 😭❤️.”—@Corra Lynne
“I miscarried twins. I want my arms free and open wide so I can pick them both up the second I get to heaven.”—@Brittany Range
Those Grieving Parents, Grandparents, and Siblings
“When I die, bury me in my graduation gown with all my sashes from kindergarten to my master’s degree. My mummy deserves to see me walk the stages she never got to see me walk.”—@Zoë
“When I pass away, bury me with pointe shoes 🩰 and ballerina clothes, I have a long overdue performance for my mother 🤍.”—@Bessa
“My sister passed away in 2011. She had more than three miscarriages until she finally had my beautiful niece. After her passing, I dreamt [of] her playing with [her] kids, laughing, and super happy ❤️.”—@Karina
“My mom just died and this is the first peace I’ve had about it. Thinking about her holding my little Molly. And her own two angel babies. Thank you.”—@ThatMommyOverThere
“Bury me in my green scrubs while holding my diploma so my grandma can see I made it.”—@Emma
“When I die, [bury] me with cookies and coffee because I will be spilling the tea with my grandma.”—@RMN
Those Finding Gratitude in Other People’s Stories
“The ‘guys that’s my mom’ broke me. My daughter now makes all her little friends she makes at the park come meet me because she loves me so much and is so proud of me 🥹. She’s 3.”—@Klsmvriex
“Ugh my heart 😔. I’m so sorry to all of the mamas that had to say goodbye too soon. Hugs to all of the mamas that had to go through that ❤️.”—@BeautifulDisaster
“I saw [this video] while I was super overwhelmed trying to calm my screaming one-month-old baby and it made me realize I’m so lucky even when it’s hard 😭.”—@em
Kathy Sisson, Senior Editor
Kathy Sisson has been a key contributor in the editorial parenting space for eight years, not only as a full-time editor at The Everymom but previously as a freelance writer for top parenting sites, including Scary Mommy, Motherly, Parent Co., and more. As an editor at The Everymom, she has produced hundreds of articles on a range of parenting topics, reviewed dozens of family-focused products, interviewed leading experts in the children and parenting world, and created viral parenting social media content. A mom of two, she is committed to sharing the honest, helpful, and often humorous stories of motherhood.