The Best Date Night Ideas Based on Your Partner’s Love Language

Raise your hand if you’re well overdue for a date night with your lover. Thought so! But you’re tired of the same old, same old? You’re not alone. Rather than another night of Netflix and chill, maybe try having a date night that taps into your specific love language.

Your love language is the way that you prefer to give and receive love. There are five different love languages, and you might find that you have more than one that fits you. The love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.

The goal is to try and speak your partner’s love language so that they get and feel the love from you in a way that meets their needs. Creating a date around you or your partners love language is a great way to make sure it will tap into the specific desires of love, affection, and intimacy. Below are date ideas that you can steal from us (we won’t tell!) that are connected to each specific love language.


Words of Affirmation

  1. Karaoke night — sing their favorite song or a song that reminds you of your relationship.
  2. Poetry reading — write a thoughtful poem about your partner and share it with them privately or at a reading.
  3. Scrabble — play only using words that describe your partner or your relationship.



Acts of Service

  1. Homemade dinner — head to the kitchen and whip up their favorite meal. Bonus points if you include dessert.
  2. Breakfast in bed — breakfast can be easy, but surprising your partner with a full spread while they’re still in their PJs is going the extra mile.
  3. Couples massage at home — bring out the essential oils, the lotions, and the candles. A spa day at home is the best way to relax with your partner.


Receiving Gifts

  1. Treasure hunt — be a tourist in your own city and leave tiny surprises all over town.
  2. “No Phone Zone” movie night — put distractions to the side and watch your favorite movie together.
  3. Build a memory scrapbook — print off photos and build a scrapbook together of your relationship.


Quality Time

  1. Cooking class — whether you’re a great cook or need a little help, a cooking class is a great way to learn a new skill together.
  2. Rock climbing — you’ll need all the encouragement you can get to climb that wall. Why not do it together?
  3. Weekend getaway — sometimes the best way to spend more time together is to get out of town, even if it’s just to a nearby city or the next state over.



Physical Touch

  1. Haunted house — when your partner gets scared, they’ll most likely grab your hand or hold on to you. Score!
  2. Ice skating — We’re no Kristi Yamaguchi, and we bet you aren’t either. Holding on to your partner is essential for skating and not falling.
  3. Dance lessons — Ballroom, Salsa, Hip Hop, the choice is yours! 


No matter your love language, date nights are much more fun when you’re planning them with your partner’s likes and interests in mind. Try to think out of the box next time you’re planning your date night – a little extra effort can go a long way.