The Everymom’s Guide to Traveling With a Toddler

Traveling with an infant is relatively easy. Then your child starts walking, talking and throwing tantrums and taking a trip sounds less than desirable. But trust us – the memories of taking a family trip far outweigh the stress of traveling with a family.

I joked that our last flight with my two-and-a-half-year-old was like giving birth- unpredictable, messy, exhausting, exciting, beautiful, unforgettable and worth it.

Plus, you walk away with great stories – like the time that my husband opened my son’s water bottle only to find it had pressurized during takeoff, resulting in a perfect arch of water that ricocheted off the ceiling into the row behind us. Our reactions could not have been different: I could not stop laughing and my husband was mortified as my son shouted “Daddy spilled my water! Daddy spilled my water!” But, we survived. And we learned some lessons along the way.

Before you embark on your next trip, here are some tips for traveling with a toddler.


1. Pack light

The lighter you pack, the easier it will be to get from point A to point B. If you have plenty of snacks and the essentials, you will be totally fine. Trust us, you’ll want an extra hand more than you’ll want those three changes of outfits you packed in your carry on.

Stick to the basics for your carry on: a change of clothes for your little one and an extra shirt for you, an empty water bottle or sippy cup, a few small toys (pro tip: mini toys wrapped in foil are toddler gold), headphones, a device loaded with their favorite movies or shows and lots of snacks. Stick to a combination of favorite snacks and new novelties such as a tube of Mini M&Ms.


2. Have a plan

Think about what you’ll do when passing through security. Decide if your family will eat before leaving for the airport or if you will grab something when you arrive. Take turns walking around to wear your little one out before getting on the plane. Pack the essentials where they can be easily accessed. Having a plan takes away some of the mental stress and allows you to be prepared for anything that may come your way.

After the age of two federal regulations require that all children have their own seat in-flight. While car seats are not required, they are highly recommended by the FAA. If you plan on renting a car when you get to your destination a car seat stroller can convert your child seat into a stroller to help you breeze through the airport. Remember that most airlines’ seats are less than 16 inches wide, so an inexpensive car seat made to FAA regulations may be a good option if you plan on flying often. You may also want to consider the CARES safety harness– we use this and absolutely love it!



3. Take advantage of help

When your airline calls for early boarding, take advantage of the extra time. The airport has family bathrooms or a nursing station? Use them! Call ahead to get a crib assembled and ready in your hotel room. Take advantage of any help you can find and don’t feel bad about it.

Research before you go!  For example, Chicago’s O’Hare Airport has a play area in terminal two, many mothers’ rooms and family bathrooms. The Atlanta airport features five Mamava nursing pods and you can locate them via a handy app that works at airports across the country. Detroit, a large Northwest Airlines hub, sports seven- count ’em- seven play areas. Got a long layover in LA? Enjoy free admission at The Flight Path Learning Center of Southern California to keep your littles entertained. Entertainment is just a Google search away- be prepared and look before you go.


4. Stick to your routine as much as possible, but be flexible

If you can, plan flights around your child’s usual routine. Try to keep things as normal as possible – from nap time, to meal times, to the things they play with. If you’re leaving later in the day, wake up at normal time and follow your normal routine as much as possible – the park, swim class, museum, etc.   

If flight times don’t align and you do end up missing naptime, don’t stress, because toddlers are much more resilient than you think. They might be overtired at night so try to do bedtime half an hour earlier. You’ll be back on track the next day. 



5. Laugh it off!

In the end, having a good attitude is the best thing you can do when traveling with a toddler. Meltdowns are bound to happen – for you or your kids. Your water bottle may explode. (Or maybe that’s just us.) TSA may want to inspect all your snacks. Keep in mind that your child will feed off your energy so stay calm. You’ve got this!


6. Live like the locals

When you arrive at your destination, live like the locals. Check out local restaurants and coffee shops, hit up the neighborhood parks, explore museums and ride public transportation. Pro tip: check out local bloggers’ sites to find the family hot spots. They know the good places!

I recommend making a list before you go, but leaving your itinerary open. This allows you to be educated but flexible, allowing your family to go with the flow. In the end, a vacation should be a break from your regular routine and allow great opportunities for family bonding and lifelong memories.




Airplane Safety Harness

Approved by the FAA, this bad boy will keep your child safe and strapped in. AKA no roaming the aisles.

Packing Cubes

These are more for you than your toddler. Packing cubes will help you keep all your toddler's things organized in the craziness of travel so it's easy to find pajamas when you arrive at your destination way past bedtime.

Car Seat Stroller

If you're worried about damage when checking your car seat, try this. It acts as a stroller and can be gate-checked.

Budget-Friendly Car Seat

The worst part about traveling with car seats is taking it out of your own car, cleaning all the Goldfish off, and then reinstalling after the trip. Purchase a cheap (but safe) car seat just for travel to avoid all the schlepping.

Native Water Shoes

Heading to the beach? These shoes are necessary. They stay on so your toddler can run, can be worn in the water, and are easily hosed down, too.

Travel Activity Kit

Any novel toys will keep your kids interest on the plane. This one has a few activities to keep them busy.

Water Bottle

This reusable water bottle is made of food-grade silicone, packs easily and expands to hold to hold 20 ounces of fluid.

Coloring Book

It's all about activities when you travel with kids. This coloring book is genius - you fill the pen with water and the color appears when water hits the page.