10 Things You Need to Know About Your Kids’ School

This upcoming school year, I have a little more confidence and a little less insecurity about all things back-to-school because my oldest is starting first grade. I already made it through one school year. I’ve navigated chaotic drop-offs, attended numerous classroom parties, and even survived a call from the principal’s office during my first year as a school mom to a kindergartner. She and I both learned so much.

To answer some questions you might be asking yourself: yes, you should probably attend at least one PTO (Parent Teacher Organization) meeting – or watch the live stream. No, you don’t need to facilitate the most Pinterest-worthy craft at the holiday party, the kids don’t care. And yes, you might get emotional at drop off more than once.

It will be OK.

When your little one is leaving the safe haven of home and headed to preschool, kindergarten, or a new elementary school, it can be hard to keep track of all the things – not to mention managing the emotional toll of knowing another milestone is upon you both.

So to help, we gathered a list of 10 things to know about your kids’ school, from the philosophical to the practical, to help ease the transition back-to-school for you both.

 

1. Learning Environment and Philosophy

For a majority of parents, local public schools are the best option for their families, and while your school choice is often limited to the district where you buy or rent your home, it’s still helpful to understand your school’s environment and philosophy. Take a school tour and attend a new parent orientation. Maybe you’re curious about how the school addresses bullying or promotes inclusivity. Don’t hesitate to ask questions that are important to you.

If you chose a Montessori, language immersion, parochial, or private school for your child, you probably felt the school already aligned with your values and parenting philosophies, but orientations are still a great chance to meet other parents, ask questions, and understand more about your child’s day to day.

 

 

2. School and Classroom Calendar

Save both the school and classroom events to your digital calendar and regularly check ahead. You don’t want registration deadlines, holidays, teacher in-service days, or crazy hair day to sneak up on you – take it from someone who nearly missed basically all of these.

Know which days of the week your child has gym or library, so you help make sure they’re prepared. Plus, field trips, class parties, and other obligations with your child’s individual class will come up, so you’ll always be adding.

 

3. Birthday Celebration Rituals

Birthday celebrations vary so much school-to-school. Some schools and districts do not allow food-based treats to help address childhood obesity and avoid food allergy issues. Some teachers may have their own rituals, like having the student bring a parent or friend into the classroom to read a story. I remember my elementary school asked us to donate a book to the library on our birthday each year, rather than bring a food-related treat.

Find out your school or classroom preference in advance of your little one’s birthday. If your child has a summer birthday, you can also ask the teacher’s preference for celebrating (perhaps on their half birthday?).

 

4. Food Restrictions and Lunchroom Rules

How long is the lunch hour? Are adults on site available to help open snacks? What is the hot lunch ordering procedure? How does your child pay? Don’t be like me – I received a bill for a week’s worth of chocolate milk because my daughter thought they were “free.”

Also important, are there nut-free tables, nut-free lunchrooms, or other food restrictions all parents need to follow? Volunteering in the cafeteria or talking to a veteran mom is helpful to understand the lunchroom rules and dynamic.

 

5. How to Report Absences

Our school has an online system to report absences, but some schools prefer email or phone calls to report absences. Know the preferred or required way to report an absence for your child and whether there are limits on the number of days they can be out of school.

 

 

6. Policies for Discipline and Resolving Conflict

Preschool, kindergarten, and elementary school procedures will likely vary since, developmentally, children change so much in those early years. For example, a toddler biting a classmate may only get separation at daycare but would obviously have a more significant consequence in kindergarten.

“Talk, walk, and squawk” is the conflict resolution mantra my daughter’s school teaches the kids when it comes to conflict. First, they should try to talk to the classmate, then walk away, and finally, tell a teacher or other adult. Each school likely has a variation of this strategy, and if you agree with it, it can be helpful to reinforce it at home.

 

7. Classroom Parental Involvement Expectations

Many classrooms still have a “room mom” or “class parent” who help manage class parties, gifts, and other tasks to help the teacher, and, let’s be honest, to help out us other parents. But if you can’t commit to class parent status, most schools have plenty of opportunities for parents to get involved, whether it be coaching, volunteering, driving to field trips, being part of PTO committees, helping with class parties, heading up Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts troops, and more.

While it’s not possible to do everything considering work schedules, other children, and other commitments, consider looking at the calendar with your child and prioritize events together. That way, you can set expectations and help lessen any mom guilt.

 

8. Special Needs Support and Accommodations

Even if your child doesn’t have any particular special needs or an IEP (Individualized Education Program), it’s helpful to know how the school supports students with special needs so you can answer any questions your child may have.

My daughter had multiple classmates with autism. Rather than needing to talk to her about including the classmates, she taught me a few things. She’d tell my husband and I frankly, “My friend has autism, so she learns differently and talks differently.” Or, “she wears headphones at recess because it’s a little too loud for her.” Teachers are wonderful about answering questions and giving age-appropriate responses (amongst being wonderful at so many other things).

 

9. Online Systems and Online School Groups

Are there online systems you need to access for class registration, absence requests, or teacher communication? Is there a parents’ Facebook group? A PTO Facebook page where events and information are posted? Does your child’s teacher provide updates on a private blog? For the grassroots groups, you may need to ask a veteran mom, but most are eager to help a newbie.

 

 

10. The Hard Stuff

None of us want to think about the nightmare scenarios we watched unfold at Sandy Hook or in Parkland, FL, but code red drills, adult visitor procedures in school, and emergency preparation are an important part of keeping our children safe. Schools are taking greater safety precautions and it’s imperative to know your child’s school emergency drills and protocols.

How do they describe code red drills to kindergartners? This will help you be consistent with the language if your child has questions. How does the school communicate with parents in an emergency situation (emails, texts, phone trees)?

Additionally, does your child’s school offer learning about body safety or internet safety that you can supplement at home? Resources for parents sent home with my daughter were extremely helpful in having some of those harder conversations.

 

Starting the school year is an exciting and emotional time for parents and for kids. But preparation, organization, and information can be empowering.  This year, you and your kids will learn a lot – enjoy it!

 

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