"Weâve written a lot about Enneagrams on The Everymom and The Everygirl. Because understanding your Enneagram type as it relates to others can help increase your self-awareness, strengthen your relationships, and even help guide your parenting.
Since the holidays are so relationship-oriented, we thought itâd be fun (and useful) to align some of our favorite holiday movie parent characters with your Enneagram types. Plus, offer some holiday-focused insight to help you through the season, however it looks for your family this year.
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Type 1: Reformer
Doris Walker in Miracle on 34th Street
Reformers are well-organized, orderly, and purposeful. They have high standards but can move towards the critical when others donât meet their standards. We see this in Mrs. Walker as she grows frustrated when Mr. Kringle wonât tell her daughter, Susan, the âtruth about Santa Claus.â
Ones can also fall into the trap of seeing their way as the only right way, which can create conflict in young and growing families as you navigate the season. Try to stay open to creating new traditions, especially this year.
Type 2: Helper
Clark Griswold in National Lampoonâs Christmas Vacation
Helpers are warm-hearted, generous, and sentimental, which is so apparent in Clarkâs desire to give everyone a âbig old fashion family Christmas.â Twos can be a little self-sacrificing as evidenced by Clark risking safety (the Christmas lights on the roof) and financial security (writing the check for that pool) to increase the holiday magic for his family. Even if a big family Christmas isnât happening this year, you can still embrace your inner Clark by finding new ways to celebrate and feel connected to those you love.
Type 3: Achiever
Jack Campbell in The Family Man
Achievers flourish when accomplishing things. They can be charming while still being extremely goal-oriented and competitive. Like Jack, this often leads threes to career successes. Yet during Jackâs glimpse into life as a âfamily man,â he uncovers a new meaning of success that isnât always found at the top of the corporate ladder. Threes can take the holidays as a moment to pause from pulling up to the next rung. Try to notice the little successes surrounding you right at home.
Type 4: Individualist
Julie Biggs in The Preacherâs Wife
Fours are the Individualists, meaning they are often artistic, sensitive, and reserved. They seek out personal fulfillment in expressing themselves creatively and showcasing their individuality. We learn Julie used to be a singer before she became head of the church choir. And we watch her light up again on stage at the club with angel Dudleyâs (AKA Denzelâs) encouragement singing in signature Whitney Houston-style.
As a four, youâll want to seek out opportunities to add your special, creative touch to the holidaysâmaybe by creating an Insta-worthy holiday decor display, doing door-to-door (masked) caroling, or finding the perfect unique gift from a small business.
Type 5: Investigator
George Bailey in Itâs a Wonderful Life
Investigators are always seeking a deeper connection with the world. They are independent, innovative, and inventive, as George demonstrates in his desire to âsee the worldâ and his strategies to help Bedford Falls through his family building and loan.
Because a lot goes on inside their heads that they may not share with family and friends (including any struggles), fives can become detached. We see this in George as he descends into despair before he meets his guardian angel, Clarence. Remember whatâs inside your mind isnât necessarily what others see. Try to open up and connect with who and what is most important to you this holiday season.
Type 6: Loyalist
Lisa Whitfield in This Christmas
Loyalists value security and protection and are often seen as steady and level-headed. In This Christmas, Lisa feels she needs to be responsible for managing her entire extended familyâs welfare as wife, mother, and sister at the sacrifice of her own needs and wants.
As a six, you may be known as the dependable one in your family, which can also lead to extra pressure to put other peopleâs wishes ahead of your own. With your tendency towards caring, you might feel more connected to the season by giving back to your favorite charity over buying gifts for everyone on your list. Try to prioritize and delegate so you can carve out time for what is most meaningful to you around the holidays.
Type 7: Enthusiast
Buddy in Elf
Buddy is the seven-est of sevens, with unmatched enthusiasm and optimism for the world, which is why heâs on this list although he technically doesnât become a parent until the very end of the movie.
Like Buddy, as an Enthusiast, your magnanimous, fun-loving nature is contagious. But being known as the âlife of the partyâ in a year when gatherings are small and more low-key, may leave you feeling restless. Try to reimagine holiday parties as fun, festive nights in with your family or find a reason to get dressed up like an after-bedtime date night. Maybe even make it a double date by Facetiming some of your best friends? Above all, try not to let your special holiday light snuff out this year.
Type 8: Challenger
Miss Piggy as Emily Cratchit in The Muppet Christmas Carol
Eights are powerful protectors who want to be in control and care deeply for those they love. Decisive and confident, eights wonât back down from a confrontation. As evidenced by Emily as she gives Mr. Scrooge a piece of her mind on two occasions.
As an eight, you probably want to make the holidays extra special with carefully laid plans. But because this year is so full of surprises, the holidays too may seem extra stressful for eights. Try to remember itâs not always the perfect plan that makes the holidays special, itâs moments with the people closest to you.
Type 9: Peacemaker
Ralphieâs Mom in A Christmas Story
Nines are the Peacemakers, and they want to create harmony and avoid conflicts or tension at all costs. Ralphieâs mom strives to keep everyone happy at home, including Ralphieâs dad as things go awry. Like after Ralphie gets in a fight at school, the âaccidentâ with the lamp, and the dog-destroyed Christmas feast.
The tough conversations and uncomfortable boundary-setting this year may have been hard if youâre a nine. But since youâre naturally able to find silver linings, you can help focus your family on gratitude this season. Embrace your natural ability to find the positive in just being together with who you can around the holidays.
