The Importance of Alone Time for Moms and How to Sneak Away

written by KATHY SISSON
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importance of alone time for moms
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The transition from one to two kids was a little rough in our house. Even if you’ve been through it, nothing really prepares you for the minute-by-minute needs of a newborn. It caused some marital strife for a few months, but there was one break in the struggle I would savor a few times a week: a long, hot shower. My husband knew not to interrupt me—actually, he still knows not to interrupt me, even though we’re years from the newborn stage.

Wherever you are in your motherhood journey, every mom has probably felt touched out, burned out, or frayed to the point of yelling, sobbing, or curling up in a corner. A little alone time can be a healing balm. A break from being needed, even for a few minutes, can have a positive effect on you and your kids. Our team had a giggle recently as everyone shared what they really wanted for Mother’s Day—each wishing for a variation of “time away from our kids.”

In case you need some inspiration, we’ve put together a simple list with seven ideas for how to sneak in some much needed solo time, even if it’s just for a few minutes.


How to Get Much-Needed Alone Time as a Mom


1. Take a Hike (or a Walk)

Put in your earbuds for a favorite podcast, mindfulness meditation, or opt to listen to nature’s playlist. A hike or a solo walk around the block can do wonders when you don’t have to stop every two seconds to let your toddler crawl out of the stroller.



2. Play Hide-and-Seek—And You’re It

OK, maybe this is a teensy bit mean, but if you have young kids, this is a great way to catch your breath for a moment. See how long you can stretch it before they notice they haven’t been found.


3. Ask Your Partner to Handle a Habit

Are you usually the bath time champ? Or the bedtime stories reader? Have your partner handle one of the daily kid-related tasks on your to-do list while you take some time for yourself. It can help make the task feel less like a chore the next time, too.


4. Stargaze After Bedtime

With less artificial light and noise, not only are more baby sea turtles finding their way to the ocean, but you can also escape outside after a long day, look up, and soak in the sky (and the quiet).



5. Sleep In

My kids are my alarm clock most mornings, but every once in a while my husband will take them downstairs and let me fall back asleep. It is heavenly—which reminds me, I should probably repay the favor for him sometime.


6. Savor that Shower

Yes, it’s a small thing, but it can really help too. A daily shower can ensure you get at least 10 minutes of uninterrupted ‘me time’ during the throes of parenting, which is so important for your mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing. Don’t forget to take time for youself, mama—you deserve it! 

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