The transition from one to two kids was a little rough in our house. Even if you’ve been through it, nothing really prepares you for the minute-by-minute needs of a newborn. It caused some marital strife for a few months, but there was one break in the struggle I would savor a few times a week: a long, hot shower. My husband knew not to interrupt me—actually, he still knows not to interrupt me, even though we’re years from the newborn stage.
Wherever you are in your motherhood journey, every mom has probably felt touched out, burned out, or frayed to the point of yelling, sobbing, or curling up in a corner. A little alone time can be a healing balm. A break from being needed, even for a few minutes, can have a positive effect on you and your kids. Our team had a giggle recently as everyone shared what they really wanted for Mother’s Day—each wishing for a variation of “time away from our kids.”
And because right now it’s harder than ever to get out or get away, we’ve put together some ideas to sneak in some much needed solo time, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
Take a Hike (or a Walk)
Put in your earbuds for a favorite podcast, mindfulness meditation, or opt to listen to nature’s playlist. A hike or a solo walk around the block can do wonders when you don’t have to stop every two seconds to let your toddler crawl out of the stroller.
Play Hide-and-Seek—And You’re It
Ok, maybe this is a teensy bit mean, but if you have young kids, this is a great way to catch your breath for a moment. See how long you can stretch it before they notice they haven’t been found.
Ask Your Partner to Handle a Habit
Are you usually the bathtime champ? Or the bedtime stories reader? Have your partner handle one of the daily kid-related tasks on your to-do list while you take some time for yourself. It can help make the task feel less like a chore the next time too.
Stargaze After Bedtime
With less artificial light and noise, not only are more baby sea turtles finding their way to the ocean, but you can also escape outside after a long day, look up, and soak in the sky (and the quiet).
My kids are my alarm clock most mornings, but every once in a while my husband will take them downstairs and let me fall back asleep. It is heavenly—which reminds me, I should probably repay the favor for him sometime.
Savor that Shower
Yes, it’s a small thing, but it can really help too.